“Grab a bucket, grab a mop…”
Cardi B. and Megan Thee Stallion burst open the door for normalizing women’s pleasure in pop culture. They showed the world that women can love kinks, communicate what they want, and know they are entitled to pleasure. But for many women, there is still a mental roadblock for harnessing the full WAP energy.
We’ve heard it all before. We grew up hearing it. It has seeped into our minds and it’s taking all of our power to unlearn. The double standards around sex for different genders have been reinforced for ages. They are deeply rooted in our society, our cultures, our parents, our teachers, and then passed onto us. “Act like a lady” “Why buy the cow when he gets the milk for free?” Men are encouraged and applauded for their sexual encounters while women are degraded and disrespected. A man’s first time having sex is praised while a woman’s is treated like she is losing a sacred part of herself. Women are shamed for enjoying sex, being sexual, or wanting sex, while men are encouraged to do do these same things.
All of this is bullshit.
This is harmful to every gender.
Slut shaming and upholding double standards impacts more areas of our lives than we realize. These harmful beliefs are ingrained in us. Now, as we grow and learn and unlearn the toxic, patriarchal, anti-women’s pleasure rhetoric, we still struggle with the physical impact.
Pleasure happens in the brain. Pleasure comes from vulnerability, communication, mindfulness, and even physical pleasure is first processed in the brain. When our brains have these underlying ideas regarding women, pleasure, communication, and shame, how are we to be present enough to feel the full spectrum of pleasure that we are meant to experience?
WAP may leave some people with vulvas feeling a bit insecure, but vulva owners CAN be turned on without being wet! Many women struggle with personal lubrication, where they are expected to have a WAP at any time, or feel pressured to have an abundance of “wetness ”when trying to engage in sexual activity. Society is partially to blame for these unrealistic expectations.
Through this upcoming workshop, we will delve deeper into the intricate ways that slut shaming and double standards have impacted vulva owners mentally, emotionally, and yes, physically. Through undoing the harmful rhetoric we’ve grown up with, we can liberate women’s pleasure.
To learn more about the WORKSHOP or to schedule an appointment to explore your sexuality and mental health CLICK HERE
